Communication Skills!

Good communication can often fall to the wayside when you’re feeling hurt, upset, etc., however, try to keep some of these things in mind.

-Use I statements (I feel hurt…I am mad)—see previous post for more on this

-Say “I need a minute” to allow yourself time to cool down

-Think about the goal of the conversation.  What would you realistically like to see happen?  Are your expectations reasonable?

-Actively listen and reflect back the meaning behind the person’s statements.  Sometimes we might get caught in the details and miss the underlying message.

-Focus on the underlying feelings. So often we get caught up in the minutiae or irrelevant details. Ask yourself what you’re really feeling and what’s really triggering you and focus on those things.

-Let everyone have a chance to speak.  Sometimes you can allot a specific time per person to make sure everyone is heard.

-Compromise!  This is a hard one.  Find middle ground and try to get there.

Be well.